It’s a sad fact of life, but at least half of married couples will go through the trauma of separation and divorce in their lifetime. From those, many will wonder if they’ll ever recover from the loss, the pain, and the loneliness. Many will wonder if they will ever find love again after divorce. In this article, I will show you how you can not only recover from that failed relationship, but move forward and find your best friend and soul mate in the process.
How do I know? Well, I was exactly where you probably are right now and I managed to come through on the other side, in the best position of my life. It certainly didn’t happen straight away… it was a process that took a few years but it was worth it to get the results that I received… the absolute love of my life.
Letting go of the past
If you really want to find love again after divorce, the first thing that you need to do is to let go of your previous relationship. Now this is the hard part because in reality, this may take you a number of years to fully accept. Even though logically your head tells you that your marriage is definitely finished, your heart may still cling to the memory of that relationship.
It’s very important that you let go as soon as possible, because while you still cling to the past, it’s preventing you from finding your TRUE love. Try to accept that your marriage ended for a reason, and that it could be part of a bigger plan for you to connect with your true soul mate. Accept, without any regrets, that your failed marriage was a necessary experience in your life, to get you to where you are today (and will be in the future).
Getting clear on who you want
Before you can find love again, you first of all MUST believe that your soul mate is definitely out there somewhere in the world, waiting to find you. Then you have to be very clear about what that prospective partner will look like and be like.
What you need to do is sit down somewhere quiet, with no distractions and REALLY think about your ideal partner. Think about what values they should have, their personality, their interests, their sense of humour, and their appearance.
This will probably take some time (even weeks or months) to truly work out who your ideal partner should be… SO BE IT. No matter how long it takes, it’s worth it to find your true love rather than another person who isn’t going to work out. If you’re not very clear on who you are looking for, you will keep getting partners that do not suit you, and the relationships will ultimately fail.
Writing it down
It’s imperative that you write down exactly what qualities you are looking for in your partner, and as time goes on, edit this as required. You can even pretend that you are writing a profile for an online dating site, because this will really get you thinking about what your potential partner may be like. Once you are clear on what you want and it is written down, read this every day to really cement this into your sub conscious mind.
By the way… make sure that this person is someone that you really want, not someone who you think would look good for you, or that your friends and family want for you.
Don’t settle for less
When you do meet a potential partner, it’s easy to settle for someone that your intuition tells you is not quite suitable, mainly because as humans we do not want to be left all alone. You have to really fight the urge to stay with someone that you know isn’t the one. Every day that you stay with a partner that you know in your heart is not right for you, is just keeping you from finding your true life partner.
No matter what, it is crucial that the person you are with is your best friend… all the sexual attraction in the world, will not hold the relationship together in the long term if your partner is not your best friend. Patience is probably the most important quality that you can possess, as it may take you several years to find that special person. I should know because it took me 7 years to find my soul mate after the end of my marriage, and it was definitely worth the wait.
So, there you have it… if you really want to find love again after divorce, there are several things that have to come together to make it happen. Again, as I said above… you have to let go of the past, become very clear on what your life partner will be like, and be prepared to wait as long as it takes to find the partner of your dreams. Keep going, don’t give up and you will succeed in the end.